Category Archives: Aging

Spiritual Practice: Grieving

  Grieving is a spiritual practice? I believe it is and it’s one we often try to cut short, but it’s time to reevaluate grieving, it’s time to give it it’s due. I mean, even Jesus wept. I’ve learned a lot about grief, personally and in my work as a hospice counselor. I guess if …

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Embracing the Mystery: Moving Toward Unity In The Second Half Of Life

  The goal of the second half of life, is to move from “doing” to “being.” I heard that somewhere, probably from my spiritual director. But what does it mean? It does not mean we stop doing things or that we should not enjoy doing things. But our jobs, roles and things we do no …

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Bathing the Dying: how to care for those experiencing grief and loss

I work in for a hospice company as the Bereavement Coordinator. This job encompasses my training in both pastoral care marriage and family therapy. Wanna see a family go haywire? Just have a member die. I get to be there when things are falling apart. I get to be a peaceful presence in a less …

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Grieving As Transformation

Last week, to honor the one-year anniversary of my mother’s sudden death, and the six-month anniversary of my job loss, I attended a grief workshop. About twenty of us sat in a circle around a beautiful, multi-tiered display of broken mugs. There were many kinds, colors and shapes of mugs. Some were merely chipped, some …

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Blindsided! Surviving Grief, Loss, and Disappointment

A year later: I’m still in awe of the support and encouragement of our friends during our Blindside! My mom died a month ago, suddenly, in her sleep, just died. Did I mention it was a shock? When something shocking happens, it sends us reeling in a way few other things can. In Baz Luhrmann’s famous …

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A Tribute To My Mother, a year after her death

My beautiful mother died suddenly, a year ago, March 14th. This is the tribute I wrote for her memorial. At the end is a link to the video my son made of her life in pictures. LaDonna Fae Terry was born August 29th 1935 in Wendell Idaho. Her parents, Jack and LeRue Smith had four …

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Driving Miss Donnie: How to survive a road trip with someone with dementia

I wrote this blog a year ago when my mom and I did something we’d done our whole lives: We took a road trip to Idaho. I had no idea when we did it, that it would be our last. I’m so grateful for these memories.  I’m just back from a four day road trip …

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On-line Dating for Seniors or Dating My Mother!

Many of us in my generation are dealing with a lot of difficult issues concerning our aging parents. After my father’s death, my mom was desperately lonely. So when she came to live with us, I started dating her online. I found a free dating site, sat up a profile for her and monitored it …

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